Dating a shy coworker
If you are interested in getting to know him better, you have to understand that one of you has to make a move.While you cannot make him be more outgoing or confident – at least not at that stage, you have a lot of control over what you do, and thus .Shy guys often don’t make the first move, which makes you think they’re just “not that into you.” Sometimes when a guy doesn’t call you, it might be because he’s not into you. Here’s some insight into why shy guys are the way they are: Sometimes shy guys can talk with you at first, but as soon as they think this relationship might go somewhere, they freeze up. They compare themselves to those guys and feel as if they can never be that, so they berate themselves, thinking they are losers or that no girls will ever like them. They’re hoping for the perfect woman to come along so they don’t have to do anything.They feel pressure to perform or to live up to certain standards. When it comes to making a move, such as a first kiss, shy guys often overthink things instead of just acting on them. When a shy guy does enter a conversation with a girl he likes, it might not occur to him to take things slowly to see where things lead.If the guy who looks interested is not asking you out for whatever reason, then this is unlikely to change in the near future.If you saw him 5-6 times and he still hasn’t asked you out, he probably won’t do it on his own.I believe that many of the traditional roles of men and women are valid and essential to creating and preserving the right dynamics in a relationship, and some of us are too quick to dismiss those customs that have been established over many centuries or even thousands of years, and which made the relationships between men and women work much better before than they do today.Therefore, when it come to initiating a contact and making a move on someone you are attracted to and would like to meet and potentially date, it’s ultimately a man’s job to be the initiator and to make that first move.
It’s true that girls like confident “Alpha” men, the type everyone notices when they walk into a room. But there’s often something endearing and mysterious about the shy guy.
You almost expect him to finally invite you for coffee or a movie, and yet he never gets there.
And sometimes, it’s a neighbor who clearly stares at you when he sees you as long as your are in his view, but he never approaches you to introduce himself or have a normal conversation with you to get to know you a little better.
He might even make you feel uncomfortable by staring at you, but all he is really doing is admiring what he sees.
All these guys have one thing in common – they don’t make a move because they are either shy or don’t know what to say, or they are afraid you might not be available.